World Suicide Prevention Day 💔

I haven't blogged in a while because to be fair I have felt overwhelmed and am on a bit of a downswing. I'm sorry! I wrote this yesterday, for Suicide Prevention Day, but forgot to press send 🤦‍♀️ Let's start a real conversation on suicide and prevention. A real one. Not one where you try … Continue reading World Suicide Prevention Day 💔

What Would Happen If I Could Wave a Magic Wand and You Suddenly Got Better and Stayed Better? Alfred Adler’s Magical Question.

The question is designed to shed light on the negative consequences the patient *perceives* should occur within their family unit should the patient stop their self-destructive behaviours. I’ve personally never been asked this question, yet I have spent time ruminating on the question. What *would* happen if I suddenly got well, and stayed well? Nothing. … Continue reading What Would Happen If I Could Wave a Magic Wand and You Suddenly Got Better and Stayed Better? Alfred Adler’s Magical Question.

Hi. I’m Rubes, and I’m codependent 😌

Title is pretty self-explanatory really. My relationships have always been one-sided. I have always put their needs above my own, and I have always felt intense guilt and as though I am selfish when I say “no” and decide to put myself first. Sometimes, they actually call me selfish and make me feel as though … Continue reading Hi. I’m Rubes, and I’m codependent 😌

Managing Your Mental Health This Christmas 🎄

Christmas is stressful, whether you live with a mental health condition or not. Winter can be difficult for many, and lots of people experience loneliness, isolation and stress, so here’s 5 tips on how to manage your mental health and well-being over the holidays... 1.) Stay connected. Sometimes, the last thing I want to do … Continue reading Managing Your Mental Health This Christmas 🎄

Recovery To Me Is No Longer Having Enough Symptoms To Qualify For Diagnosis 😌

I’ve had people tell me I’m beyond recovery. I’ve had people blame every emotion I have on eupd/bpd. I’ve had people turn a harassment case into an attack on my mental stability because they didn’t see what I saw. Having read my notes, I’ve always been very low-scale bpd. Even when at my worst. My … Continue reading Recovery To Me Is No Longer Having Enough Symptoms To Qualify For Diagnosis 😌

Please Tell Me If You Enjoy My Lessons 😂

In both autism and bpd, the amygdala is hyperactive which leads to communicative and emotional diversities. Both have a dysfunctional Hippocampus. Both have abnormal cortisol levels thanks to the Hypothalamic-pituary-adrenal axis. Both have an ineffective Prefrontal Cortex. People with both disorders will present in childhood, though they say bpd is developmental whereas you’re born with … Continue reading Please Tell Me If You Enjoy My Lessons 😂