World Suicide Prevention Day 💔

I haven't blogged in a while because to be fair I have felt overwhelmed and am on a bit of a downswing. I'm sorry! I wrote this yesterday, for Suicide Prevention Day, but forgot to press send 🤦‍♀️ Let's start a real conversation on suicide and prevention. A real one. Not one where you try … Continue reading World Suicide Prevention Day 💔

Narcissism and Borderline

I've been called manipulative, because in a moment of feeling completely overwhelmed, I react in ways they don't understand. The definition of manipulation is: noun noun: manipulation; plural noun: manipulations the action of manipulating something in a skilful manner. the action of manipulating someone in a clever or unscrupulous way. It's not manipulative when it's done without … Continue reading Narcissism and Borderline

10 Things I’ve Learnt From a Lifetime of Mental Illness 🗣

1.) meds are not a quick fix. Give it time to kick in and work. Always gets worse before it gets better. Please give it time. 2.) meds are not a cure. Please look into talking therapies to try to target the “root cause” of your illness. 3.) self-care is important. Spend the day watching … Continue reading 10 Things I’ve Learnt From a Lifetime of Mental Illness 🗣

What Would Happen If I Could Wave a Magic Wand and You Suddenly Got Better and Stayed Better? Alfred Adler’s Magical Question.

The question is designed to shed light on the negative consequences the patient *perceives* should occur within their family unit should the patient stop their self-destructive behaviours. I’ve personally never been asked this question, yet I have spent time ruminating on the question. What *would* happen if I suddenly got well, and stayed well? Nothing. … Continue reading What Would Happen If I Could Wave a Magic Wand and You Suddenly Got Better and Stayed Better? Alfred Adler’s Magical Question.

Hi. I’m Rubes, and I’m codependent 😌

Title is pretty self-explanatory really. My relationships have always been one-sided. I have always put their needs above my own, and I have always felt intense guilt and as though I am selfish when I say “no” and decide to put myself first. Sometimes, they actually call me selfish and make me feel as though … Continue reading Hi. I’m Rubes, and I’m codependent 😌

10 Things You Probably Didn’t Know About Me 😝

1.) I’m left-handed. We only make up about 10-15% of the population. Left-handers are more prone to migraines than their righty counterparts. The word “left” in English comes from the Anglo-Saxon word “lyft”, which means weak or broken. There are more lefty men than women. At least four of the most popular Presidents of the … Continue reading 10 Things You Probably Didn’t Know About Me 😝

Is It Love Or Is It Abuse? 💔

There were a total of 1,068,020 domestic abuse-related incidents and crimes recorded by the police in England and Wales in the year ending March, 2017. Of these, 54% were incidents not subsequently recorded as a crime and remained as incidents. The law was changed in 2015 to include “coercive and controlling behaviour”. Considering it’s prevalence … Continue reading Is It Love Or Is It Abuse? 💔